Hey everyone, I'm at my wit's end here trying to manage parental controls on my son's iPhone. I'm a 42-year-old mom with an iPhone 14 Plus, and I gave my 13-year-old son a used iPhone 11 to get him started. Both phones are on iOS 18.4. The problem is, I've been having constant issues with the parental controls. He seems to be exceeding the limits I set, and I initially thought he hacked the screen time password, but that doesn't appear to be the case. I've turned the settings off and on, updated iOS, and changed the limits repeatedly, but nothing seems to work. My son has found a way to change his IP address on the phone, which is making it even harder to enforce our internet restrictions at home. So now he just logs back into WiFi with no limitations because of this new IP. I really don't want to erase his phone and lose all his photos. How can I make these parental controls actually function? Also, is there a reliable way to prevent him from changing his IP address? With another son getting a device soon, I need this sorted out before I lose my sanity! Any advice would be super helpful!
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It's not just a tech issue; it's really about setting boundaries and keeping communication open. If he feels he can bypass the rules, it might lead to bigger issues down the line if you don't address this behavior now.
You might want to try requiring new devices to be approved on your WiFi network, that way you can manage which devices connect. Also, consider using MAC address filtering to keep tighter control over what can access your network.
I have that alert set up too, but I'm not sure my router's working properly, honestly.
It really sounds like you're facing a tough situation. Maybe instead of strict controls, try rewarding your son for good behavior and compliance instead? It's tough growing up with so many restrictions.
True, but we can't forget that they need guidance too. Balance is key!
If you're struggling with IP addresses, remember that most home networks assign dynamic IPs, so he could change it easily when connecting. Try configuring your router for MAC address filtering to make it tougher for him to bypass restrictions.
Good point! I didn't even think about the dynamic IPs. Definitely looking into MAC filtering!
Honestly, taking the phone away might be your best bet! After that, you should really look into setting up a secure network with strong passwords and MAC address controls to keep the kid from bypassing any restrictions.
Or just upgrade your setup if you keep having issues with managing this.
Yeah, maybe get him a flip phone until he can handle responsibilities!
I totally feel you on this! Sometimes it just feels like the parental controls don't even work.