Help! I Was Forced into Management and I Can’t Stand It—What Should I Do?

Honestly, it's common for tech people to get pushed into management when it's not where they shine. Just be clear that you’re more productive and happier as an individual contributor. Highlight that moving back would benefit the team and company too. They should respect your honesty.

Here’s a thought: when you meet with your director, reference the Peter Principle, which basically states that people get promoted until they reach their level of incompetence. You can explain how you’ve hit that wall and ideally want to pivot back to a tech-focused role where you can thrive.

Just tell them you appreciate the opportunity but that this management role was forced onto you. If you're unhappy and they don’t adjust your role, you may seriously consider leaving. Managers need to know not everyone aspires to be one.

You might consider presenting it as a crossroads moment: you're facing burnout and don’t want to leave the company, but going back to your roots as an engineer could be a win-win. Just frame it as wanting to be in a position where you can contribute the most.

Dude, I totally get this. If management isn’t your thing, it’s best to be upfront. I once told my director that I excelled as a team lead but didn’t want the added stress of management responsibilities. If you’re feeling miserable, your director should understand. Maybe approach it like you’re looking for a role that plays to your strengths instead. Good luck!